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"Always Trust Your Feeling." Really?

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"Always Trust Your Feeling?"  This dictum sounds familiar and appealing. It is often used by my colleagues to address the students who consumes without any thought analysis. It sounds wise, thus the popularity. However, the reality is nuanced and misleading. This article discusses why the dictum is appealing and explores to interrupt the assumptions that frame the popularity of the dictum. Why does this dictum sounds fascinating?  The combination of "trust," "your," and "feeling" powerfully blends to tap into appealing aspect of human psychology and experiences. It can be safe to assert that it is powerful enough to hijack our rational self. "Trust your feeling" offers us utterly unique reason that equivocally sound reasonable to justify our feeling and actions. This phrase also helps us shield from societal judgement which is either dichotomies or are not of our liking. Simply put, it helps in what I may call "social-self preserva...
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"How to Hug a Porcupine" by Julie A. Ross - A Review

"How to Hug a Porcupine" by Julie A. Ross is a self-help book that offers advice on dealing with difficult people with challenging personalities referred to as "Porcupine".
What is  porpupine?
Purcupine is used in this took to describe and represent defensive human behaviour.


Here are some key lessons from the book
  • Understanding the "Why": It delves into the reasons behind frustrating behaviors, helping you navigate personalities prone to defensiveness, negativity, or stubbornness. This "decoding" allows for better interaction.
  • Understanding the Why: It explores the reasons behind difficult behaviors, helping you navigate personalities prone to defensiveness, negativity, or stubbornness.
  • Setting Healthy Boundaries: Learn to establish boundaries that protect your well-being and self-respect. The book provides practical strategies for creating these essential fences in your relationships.
  • Empathy and Compassion: The book encourages approaching difficult people with understanding and compassion. By considering their perspective and struggles, you can foster more constructive communication.
  • Communicate Effectively: Develop assertive communication skills. Learn to express your needs clearly, actively listen to others, and avoid misunderstandings.
  • Manage Your Emotions: Dealing with difficult people can be emotionally taxing. The book provides strategies for managing frustration, anger, and resentment, including mindfulness and taking breaks.
  • Resolve Conflict Constructively: Learn to navigate conflict peacefully. The book encourages open dialogue, finding common ground, and reaching win-win solutions.
  • Prioritize Self-Care: Taking care of yourself is crucial. The book emphasizes self-care practices like exercise, relaxation techniques, and spending time with supportive people.
  • Cultivate Empathy: The book encourages developing empathy by seeing things from the other person's perspective and acknowledging their feelings.
  • Acceptance and Letting Go: Sometimes, change isn't possible. The book teaches you to accept what you can't control, let go of unrealistic expectations, and focus on what you can influence.
  • Seek Support: Don't hesitate to seek help! Talk to trusted friends, therapists, or support groups for validation, perspective, and encouragement.
By following these tips, you can navigate challenging relationships with more empathy, assertiveness, and self-care, fostering healthier and more fulfilling connections.

"The supreme happiness of life 
is the conviction that 
we are loved - loved for 
ourselves, or rather, loved 
in spite of sorselves."

-Victor Hugo

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